Is my boyfriend mentally ill or am I just selfish?

First and foremost, his mother has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and MS... and he has lived with her for 31 years at this point to help her out. To look at this woman... she LOOKS perfectly healthy. We have moved together, alone, just last week. That is how I found out his mom is borderline, because she attacked me (emotionally) because she felt like I was "taking him away from her." Normal 31yr old men NORMALLY don't want to live with their moms dependent upon the circumstances.

So... back to him, he NEVER wants to go anywhere or do anything except watch tv and eat pizza all day! I'm a mover and a shaker, live to experience new things and travel... he does not. He is also very vulgar... he calls me names "joking" around according to him, he has extreme road rage, is more affectionate towards his dog than me, and thinks all this normal behavior... is there something I should be doing or not doing to stop this? Or am I being selfish? It can't be his feelings toward me, or else he wouldn't have moved with me... SO CONFUSED!Is my boyfriend mentally ill or am I just selfish?
Some men are just this way. Some grow out of it, some don't. If he has spent his whole life inside watching TV and eating pizza and this is what he is used to doing then this is all he will want to do. The best way to get out of this is to find a hobby, and live a life with a routine. I was once this way but then discovered tennis which led to me being more sociable and now i am always up for something. If he isn't willing to try and change and is happy with his ways then this is how he will be until he realises that he has done nothing with his life.

If you really love him you will have to keep pushing him and do your traveling and shaking with some energetic fun loving friends.

Dont let him bring you down, you only live once so get out there and enjoy yourself :)

Good luck, Love and Peace.Is my boyfriend mentally ill or am I just selfish?
You are not selfish, and he is not mentally ill.

he is just "that" type of men, i met plenty of his kind

and when you said he is more affectionate to his dog

says that you should leave him.

i'd say (if you love that dog%26amp;all that more than me, you should have the dog fold clothes for you next time and you can have sex with it cause i'm leaving)Is my boyfriend mentally ill or am I just selfish?
Please, please....Lose the loser. He is BAD news and will only bring you down. Forget about his circumstances - you are so much more important than his problems. Say goodbye now while you're still sane!
In my opinion he's got problems. My mom has anxiety and depression and she flips out constantly but that doesn't make me act the way your boyfriend acts. I know she has issues and I help her out with chores and running errands for her. I don't live with her but I live close by so whenever she needs me I am easily available. Back to your question, you are not being selfish at all. His lack of motivation is his own problem. You have to either live with the way he is or move on. He might not change the way he is. Also, he shouldn't be vulgar or call you name even if it's "jokingly". That's just an excuse he is giving you.