A Persons Frame Of Thinking?

I just broke up with someone that jokingly talked about killing. His comments were suddle and far apart. For instance he said that he thought about killing his boss before. He also jokingly said something about my killing my daughter. I said that that was something I never thought about. He said that he used to be a medic in the Iraq war and came back in 2006. The night I moved out he asked me if I ever thought about killing somebody. The truth is there is no one that I have ever even come close to wanting to kill. Is the thought of killing someone a normal emotion. Am I overeacting by constantly thinking about what he said that night. Also he said that his boss makes him want to kill him. I have never been around someone that has thought like this. He had a control problem for instance I arranged the spices in the cabinet and he rearranged them. He said that the robe that I was wearing once should never be worn by a woman my age. These are just a few examples. One time he raced over and grabbed a pizza box out of my hands because he said that I did not wash my hands. We had other pizza. He calls his ex a b*** and seems at times to go from one extreme to the next. He said that when he grew up he never met his father, raised his mother, paid rent and light bills at a early age and ended up with another family that had lots of money.



He would lock the door to the room he shared any time he got mad at me.Needless to say what sort of disorder may he have. None of this behavior was normal to me!A Persons Frame Of Thinking?
maybe some extreme, aggressive version of OCD. maybe bi-polar disorder, it seems more common these days anyway, though i have to admit it doesn't seem he has it. his mood swings are more aggressive and controlling/critical of you. for a person with bi-polar disorder, they would mainly be depressed when their mood swings, even to the point of wanting to commit suicide. he does mention killing a lot, though, and the context that he uses it (killing your daughter?) is bizarre. that thought should not enter a sane person's mind. also with bi-polar disorder he would frequently have ups and downs, so to speak. going from extremely happy, almost like a high, to incredibly depressed, sometimes these emotions come on randomly for no reason at all. you give no indication of him having very good moments.



however i am trying to figure out, did you share the information about him claiming to be a medic in the Iraq war because you don't believe him, or because you want to share information on his backround, on why he could be this way today? i suppose the information could work for either, i'm just curious to if you believe what he told you or not.

if you think he is lying about the Iraq war, or exaggerating his childhood, there is a chance he is delusional. you may want to look into schizophrenia.



however another scary reality is that he could simply be an aggressive/abusive person, for a number of potential reasons. maybe there's something sexually thrilling to him about being in control. surely you don't have to share this information, but when you make love, is he making love with you or to you? that's the best indicator i can think of for finding out if his controlling behavior is actually a sexual fetish.

it may be comforting on some level to be able to blame it on a mental disorder, but that's not always the case.A Persons Frame Of Thinking?
He locked the room?



Seems his preferred method of getting through life is to hide away from it.



If he hadn't locked the door, or tried to stop you from getting in, it might have been different.A Persons Frame Of Thinking?
i dont think that wanting to kill someone is out of the norm .. but actually truly meaning it .. thats kind of odd .. he sounds like he has a severe bi polar problem or something .. he should take a visit to his doctor or a counselor of something ..
you will never know for sure his frame of mind but based on this it seemed like he had some type of compulsive disorder and not limited to bi-polar if he could admit to having thoughts like those you did the best thing in getting out of that relationship very odd that he locked himself up in the room maybe he was protecting you in the sense of knowing how he could become so as to not hurt you he simply would leave from the same room that you were in.