How do i stop trust issues from tearing this relationship apart?

ok well me and my girlfriend have been going out for a little over 8 months and before i've told her because of relationships in the past i have an extreme uncomfortableness with her hanging out with other guys, this has come up on several occasions and the most recent one a few days ago made her angry with me. she started on me that even tho i say she's different from my ex's(the ones that cheated) the way i act when she brings it up makes her think i dont think she is. after a while of texting i've finally told her that for the sake of the relationship that i'll start trying to trust her enough to hang out with other guys. this one situation involved her emailing her ex and him asking if she wanted to hang out at the school. then he replied back that he'd rather meet somewhere else like at pizza place. she let me readthe conversation in her emails because i guess it helps but how does it not seem obvoius of his intentions since before he's emailed her and said he still loves herHow do i stop trust issues from tearing this relationship apart?
I dont blame you for being bothered by her hanging out with other guys. its not appropriate. its not a trust issue, its simply an appropriateness issue. She shouldnt be emailing or hanging out with ex's or just other guys period that YOU are not also equally friends with. There's plenty of girls out there she can be friends with and if she wants to hang out with guys, theres no reason why you cant be included in the friendship too. I dont think she sounds like the type of girl to ever agree to those limitations... they arent set in stone mind you, and you cant control her, but generally speaking you need to find someone that shares those same values. I dont think there is anything wrong with you for having the beliefs you do, its just most people these days arent smart enough to limit contact with the opposite sex when they are in serious relationships... they dont realize that we are ALL human and if we play with fire, we eventually get burned. its smarter to just avoid temptation in the first place. I doubt your past girlfriends were even really that bad of people.. they probably had innocent intentions, and just werent smart about who they spent their time with.. and eventually one thing just led to another. It could happen with anyone. your girlfriend shouldnt take it personally that you are worried, because its not personal. There are girls out there (like myself) that understand your feelings and wouldnt try to guilt trip you into things you're not comfortable with them doing. maybe its time you found one.How do i stop trust issues from tearing this relationship apart?
Well here's to you, boy who can't trust his girlfriend and inevitably will push her away so much that she WILL end up cheating on you, here is to you.



If you are scared, get over it. How? Look dude, if she cheats on you it isn't a big deal. Why? Because if she cheats on you, you will know that she isn't the one for you. So if she isn't, you can move on to the next possible candidate.



Ok in all seriousness. For the situation that you are in right now here is the best answer that I can give you. If she wants to meet him is it really that bad? Just because you were once dating, or in a relationship with someone, doesn't mean you can't still be friends...why? Because some times people work better as friends than as girlfriend/boyfriend. She might want to still be friends with him, and even if he wants to be something more, you shouldn't deny your girlfriend the chance of even trying with him. And maybe this will be a good baby step for you. Let her go. Don't call/text her while she is meeting up with him but just casually ask her about it when you see her again. Don't badger her. Just ask 1 question. "Did you have fun?" After that bud, don't be so pushy about it. Remember...she is with you. Isn't that what you should be HAPPY about not worried about? If you worry all the time you'll miss out on something great that you have now, don't be like me...I've done that before. And I always regret it...always.