Please help my mother is crazy?

I really need some advice on how to handle the situation with my mom:

I am 16 and my brother is ten. He is severely autistic and she takes care of him most of the time. He isn't an easy kid and I know it's hard for her, but her behavior has gotten crazier and crazier over the past month. She has been on medication for depression for years. She is a really good mom, but I just think the situation is out of hand at this point. She was always a bit of a germaphob, but now she has become obsessed with bedbugs. She is scared to death that we're going to get them. Her fear is completely irrational and extreme. She makes everyone take their clothes off before we walk into the apartment because she's scared that we will bring bedbugs in. Also, I got back a few weeks ago from a month in China. Any other mother would be super excited to see their kid after that amount of time away. But the first thing my mom does (she wasn't the one picking me up from the airport) is yell at me on the phone to wash all my clothing at my grandparent's apartment, even the clothes i didn't wear because she was terrified that i would bring back bedbugs from china.



She is also really like emotionally fragile. Today she came home holding a few slices of pizza so I was like can i have one? and she said no they're for your brother. So i asked why she didn't call and ask if i wanted one. And then she just lost it entirely. She went off yelling about how i'm so selfish and mean to her and i expect way too much for her that she shouldn't have to bring me home food and that i should have already eaten lunch. When i told her that i didn't eat yet because there was no food she screamed and ran into the kitchen to prove me wrong (i was right there was no food). then she just got angry that i was right.



She has really bad mood swings one minute she's happy and smiling and the next she's yelling and crying. Everything sets her off and i really don't know what to do about it. Whenever i talk to my dad about it he's like yeah i know your mother's crazy. And I'm like so why don't we do something about it. But I think he's just as clueless as i am here.



I can put up with her its not exactly easy to live in the same house as her but I can tolerate it. For my brother though, i dont' think she's a good influence when she looses it. He needs stability and love and her mood swings and temper problems don't exactly fufill that need.



Any advice is really appreciated. I don't really know how to handle her anymore.Please help my mother is crazy?
I know mother's can be a little crazy sometimes, and my mother too, has depression issues, and takes every pill in the book. I am also 16, and maybe I don't know anything, but what I think is that your mom is showing a little favortism to your brother. Yes, he is autistic, and he needs a little help, but the fact that your mother got mad at you because you asked for a slice of pizza, is really un-necessary. She should have thought of BOTH of you. And you're exactly right, your mother is setting a terrible example to your little brother, and she should be supportive to both of you, not just one or the other. My advice to you is that you should just lay off her for awhile, and let her cool down. She has mood swings, and when she's happy, that's the time you can talk to her, but then when she starts to show different emotions, you should back off completely. The more you get involved with her bipolar issues, the worse your relationship with your mother will get.Please help my mother is crazy?
I hope your family will accept counseling services. Your brother may already receive some mental health services, if not there are a ton of county agencies to help. Look in the blue pages under mental health/mental retardation. There will be no cost to your family. Services may include TSS therapeutic staff support or a wrap-around worker (mental health) for your brother. Respite care for him to give your family a short time without caring for his multi needs. There are Parenting classes available too. Your Mom should be given a medal for caring for your brother 24/7. She sounds OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and depressed. You are a good daughter. It can't be easy living with your family. But it would probably be a lot worse living without your family. Call today.