Serious concerns about my girlfriends health.?

i have known my girlfriend (lets call be Kat) as a family friend for a number of years before we got together and have always known her as a curvy 5 ft 2 size 10. growing up she always appeared confident about her weight and figure. last year at 19 years old halfway through her first year of uni, after easter (We were still friends atm) she started extreme dieting. i only knew of this because her housemate had talked to me on facebook concerned about her behaviour saying that it was not uncommon for her to eat just a salad and a piece of bread all day. it was assumed just the stress of work and exams was causing this so although Kat's housemate used to confront her about it a lot, Kat used to get really upset when she did. the next time i saw Kat it was obvious she had lost a lot of weight and confided in me that she had dropped over 2 stone but said "the weight just came off"



she worked at her job a lot over the summer and appeared to put the weight back on and this was when we started a relationship. when she went back to uni in the autumn, her weight would fluctuate although not dramically when ever i saw her but she always seemed happy eating a wide variety of both healthy and unhealthy food though often would say if she had eaten something like a pizza she joke she would eat something healthy to counter act it, her housemate didnt say anything and i didnt see this as a problem.



around feb her housemate commented that Kat had started buying a lot of "unhealthy" food something she had never done so Kat joked to me she had started keeping this kind of food in her room to eat. her housemate recently contacted me again worried about Kat after catching her binging on food several times, often late at night or in "secret" and her housemate has heard her vomit several times. the past few times she has stayed at mine and me at hers she seems fine, obviously a bit anxious about placement applications and exams but nothing i would have considered not normal.



Kat cancelled on me the other night when i was supposed to be staying at hers for a few days saying she wasnt feeling well. Kat's housemate contacted me as she was worried about Kat as she hadnt seen much of her although had heard her vomit several times. i later had a call from Kat rather upset cause she had had an arguement with her housemate but dismissed any comments about what it was about as simply about what she ate.



I am really worried about Kat as to whether there may be an underlying problem here. i saw her last night and she had lost a bit of weight and when we were out to dinner she didn't look comfortable at all and had lost weight.



she is unaware that her housemate on facebook has raised these concerns to me and i dont think Kat's parents are aware of what is going. i am really worried about her and want to encourage her to ger help. i have read up on different eating disorders and am concerned about if she doesn't get help it could turn into a serious problem. should i ask her about it or should i tell her parents (both families are very close so i get on with them very well) i simply dont know.



i just want to say that i love Kat, i will be there to support her and care for her very much and dont like to think of her suffering with something like this as i can imagine she is feeling very alone. please, any adviceSerious concerns about my girlfriends health.?
What a shame she's suffering and eating disorder. Sounds like it started as anorexia and then progressed to bulimia or maybe a combination.



I would tell her that you know and gently confront her and then leave her space to contact the doctor herself. Be there and support her as necessary and keep an eye on her eating and vomiting. Good to know the flatmate is watching her and feels able to contact you - would not mention that aspect at this stage. If she doesn't make the right moves or noises then warn her you will be aproaching her parents next - again give her time to make the move herself before talking to them in person. You don't have any choice but to tackle this as it could be very serious if not sorted. I'm glad that you are there for her regardless.



Good luck