What to do about my husband?

Husband doesn't act like a mature person. We are both in our early twenties, and he has a masters degree but acts like he is a child. I drive he doesn't because he was traveling and studying didnt get the chance to get a license, so I drive this old car my parents got me. The car stopped and we needed a car boost or whatever you call it (shock) and i didn't have the jumper cables, my husband just makes a face and stands around not doing anything, then i ask a stranger for jumper cables and he gives them to me and helps me with starting the car my husband doesn't do anything saying its my car and its a piece of crap. he goes inside of the car and eats his pizza while the stranger helps me with the car.. the stranger's girlfriend comments "what about him" meaning my husband and why isnt he helping.... i just said idk.



later when we go home i just get in rage and yell at my husband for not helping he says its my fault..



i mean what kind of husband is that? He didn't help me with my time in need.... of course its not his car its mine as he says even though he rides in it all the time with me. He just yells as me saying strangers dont have an obligation to help me... yet he didnt nothing. im in extreme sorrow due to my husband and him not behaving like a married man.



Salam.What to do about my husband?
Sounds like a typical man to me. He was embarrassed to not be able to help, so he took it out on you, blaming you. I've been married 3 times, and all my husbands have been exactly like this. They can't admit not being perfect, so they constantly blame you for everything that happens.



I have a 9 month old son,and I hope, hope, hope, I am able to raise him to be a real man and not constantly place blame on others. I know it's an up hill battle, but I am very determined to break this cycle that makes men behave like this. We, as women, bring our male children up to expect women to take care of them. We cook and clean for them and dote on them. Then, we expect them to "man up" and be assertive and take care of things when married. Why? They don't know how, because we have raised them up to be babies, used to relying upon the care of a woman. So, how can we blame them when they still act like babies and expect to be cared for and can't step up? We are poisoning them, then getting mad that they are poisoned! As mothers, we need to raise our sons to be self reliant, and not to expect to boss around their female siblings, and to expect that "mom will take care of if/me", thus carrying that attitude over to their wives.



It's a cycle that needs to be broken. How can we expect a man to "step up" and take care of his family, when he was raised seeing the female family members of his own family taking care of the male family members? We are basically telling them what to expect, then being upset at them for expecting it. Shame on us. Break this cycle!
You should seriously go and talk to him, do not yell though!

Talk to him quietly, let him know that he is a MAN and should always be there for you, even though he doesn't have the license, that wasn't manly from him to leave you out with a stranger and enjoy his pizza inside your car!!

I hope you find a better way that suits both of you and get this thing solved!



Good luck :) xWhat to do about my husband?
He should be man and protect you! (Maybe he has no clue how to jumpstart a car) It can be pretty intimidating. He should learn while it was being done. There is no shame in not knowing how to do this, there is only shame when he refuses to learn. What if you had a baby in the back seat? What's he going to do to protect him family?
Wa salam



that is called being a man baby.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nwyQVLcsW…



He's just overly excited about you.



Woah, you yelled? Quran 31:19...



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DW3qzwcI… %26lt;-- I'd watch this if I were you.





http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GgT3AQdv3…



It's not about him helping you, it's about you either dumping him ... or actually finding out how you could encourage him to be a man.What to do about my husband?
Maybe he's a thick sh!t and staying in the car was better than embarrassing himself.
All pakis say they got masters, masters in what, cleaning the toilet?

What kind of husband is that?
My husband doesn't know much about certain stuff but he earns loads coz he's good at what he can do.. but I would never put him down online or let anyone insult him, so what kind of wife are u?
try to discuss with him

how to solve such emergencies on road

he should try to join the driving school

its better for him...

2] try to have the baby soon...



to get him more into it...



3] sell the car.....and put the amount in long term saving ...



let him learn ...the details of driving techniques...

and to get confidence

4]take care of your health . curves...career

house /kitchen managements
@Anisa, Why is the marriage section, dating single section is here for?



On the internet you remain fairly anonymous, perfect place to get some opinions of some people on a subject.
He is a wimp, useless husband that is totally helpless. You will have to put up with this sort of behavior for the rest of your marriage.
How about you don't expose your personal life on the internet? I don't know why people come on here and expose and bash their husbands/wives.
Encourage him through reverse psychology.
you should have started hooking up with the stranger.
Yeah he's a typical muslim husband. ENJOY!
submit and obey him he is your head and lord god said
I bet you make your husband nervous of you. You must think him stupid. Get this, he is different from you. He has his foibles just like you have yours. When your car broke down, was it your husband's fault? Is he really an expert on car repairs?

It wasn't your husband's fault. Whose fault is it? Who should you blame? Lay it all on your parents. It was they who bought the junk of a car that breaks down too easily. I bet they didn't even test the car before buying it. Imagine your parents giving you such an unsafe gift. Goodness knows if anyone someday might die in your car. What if your car might someday explode with a leaking oil tank?

Yeah, your husband was right to call your car a piece of crap. So who's calling him a child? You're silly and hoity-toity. Get off your high horse and get over yourself. Your husband is not your f*cking butler.
I know this sound cruel but divorce him now if you have no kids, the guy is a lost cause. I am telling you !!! My husband always helps even if I don't ask ! I have friends with husbands like yours, THEY NEVER CHANGE ! They must mature first then marry. But this marriage is already gone, it started wrong (at to young of an age) SINCE HE IS SO IMMATURE THAT IS and it will continue to be wrong.



PLEASE GET OUT NOW. BEFORE KIDS ARE IN THE MIDDLE !! CUT YOUR LOSSES AND RUN !!!
So i am analysing your situation and there is catch here, you both are in early Twenties, "MEN" tend to be really aggressive in that age, they are not matured enough to take on responsibilities of others so soon, they are sometimes depressed that we got married so soon like early twenties is early for a guy. So give him some space and time, again do not take the path of anger it just worsen things, u seem to be a very very mature girl of your age. BUT Coming back to your husband, ask him if a lonely lady with a broken down car asks him for help what would he DO. Firstly this is NO WAY to treat a Human being when he/she is in trouble. No matter you guys are angry with each other, but he SHOULD Realise you are a women with a Messed up Car and he DAMN IT needs to get HELP out there for you, going inside and having a PIZZAAA, is he still in his teenagers REALLYYY. But once again Give him time, Observe him, is he like this all the time. Inshallah your sitation will get better, you guys need more Love, Respect and lots or Responsibilities specially on your husbands Part.
Well this is from shaitan don't let his ego break your marriage, that's what shietan wants.



I think it's your husband's ego because you can drive and have a car. Maybe offer him driving lessons and let him get his driving licence without him having another ego bruise. I am sure if you say something like you are scared to drive or prefer him to drive I am sure he's going to learn, I don't know maybe not. If he continues like this it's going to be difficult but maybe try to find another part of him that you do like.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1pEdwqzL… - marriage
All d man are same! Luv

My hubby. Im 21, he is 27 im kinda immatured like kinda innocent. I dnt undrstnd thngs easily he is kind n lovely helps me a lot but he shouts nd yells at me for small thngs! They all are same! Just pray to allah.. We all alhave faults... His fault is he is like a baby n my hubbies fault is; he acts n behaves like he is 45 or 65 !! But i still love him..
Dear sister, just relax....it happens at times that a person behaves very awkwardly. just don't be flared up. He is ur hubby, sit with him , be in a cool mood and start up politely asking him why is he not taking up his responsibilities as a hubby. why is he not making you feel protected and relaxed being with him. is there any thing that he wants u to do ,if so just be up to his expectations and ask him to come up to ur expectations. Tell him to Be a man as he owns a lady. You must also behave nicely and lovingly . Talk the things in a congenial environment , i hope u guys would over come this problem very soon, but with love and affection and not by yelling.......