What would you do about this situation? (it's interestin but i need help lol - pizza included!!)?

Hey there! Afternoon!



I know this is probably a more friend-related question but wanted to put it in this category lol.



OK what should I do about this situation it's so stressing.

So.. I like "him" .. We'll call "him" person X?



And I *think* I kinda like person Y ( "her" !)

And ok so here's how it goes.

I was at person Y's house the other day.

I'm .. definitely bigger framed am .. ok very big lol but am not getting into that, anyhoo..



because of this i can stomach more food than most normal ppl.



so cos i was feelin partic. greedy that day i ordered a family sized pizza( I KNOW!! i regret this i've been on a firm diet for the past week of my life - and that 4 me is a record cos i'm used to extreme high demand of food so i AM workin on it b4 u call me)



anyhoo, so i was eatin this pizza along wiv person Y who also had pizza and two other friends.

the next day i was textin person X cos he texted me (Btw when he texts me or signs on msn nd stuff my heart races i think it's the way i feel. could even be anxiousnessness or watev but oh well lol) so anyway, he text me the next day and said he was next to person Y at skl



we go to diff skls and i was at home early cos of free period at end of day.

so person Y told person X that day(btw person Y luvs person X, nd i think vice-versa) that i had a family-sized pizza



anyhoo person X.. he text me sayin: "u fat pig, person Y told me what u had"



and cos i'm actually fat i took this stressingly. i told person X nd Y b4 bwt ma heart palps, the pains, the fact i got a murmur, the fact that i was so desperate to lose weight b4 i used to make myself throw up, they never asked if i was ok they just ok'ed it..... anyhoo - so i've told them that which was OMG so stupid of me, but anyhoo the thing is i told them that, and i also told person Y on pizza day i was gonna go on a diet monday cos i felt stressed



i never intended to stick to it but have managed to just about for once.. weirdly.. prolly only cos person X called me fat pig! xD



anyhoo - THE REAL ISSUE HERE

is

i know sayin that to a slim person who's a friend would be taken as a joke cos of eatin the pizza

and i know it's my fault for eatin it

but i've shut down since like friday from that sunday by turning off my phones and not oging on the net cos i was so stressed. do u think i was rite to avoid person X, and was this fair.. or was it not.. idk.. plz give opinions..

















thx!What would you do about this situation? (it's interestin but i need help lol - pizza included!!)?
There are several factors that you are dealing with here in your question. You have admitted to having a weight problem and seem on the fence as to how you wish to handle it. Your friend Y was obviously sharing with X some information she perhaps should of kept to herself regarding the family pizza. X was way off base by calling you the name he text. You too have suggested you may have been too sensitive to the remark again perhaps because you know you have a problem with food and felt guilty about it.



Isolating yourself from friends by turning off all your avenues of communication is not the best way to handle the issues.



There should be some support groups in your area to assist you with your overeating. It is always better to have peers with the same problems to assist you. Try asking your guidance counsellor at school for a referral or your family medical health professional.



It is never easy to lose weight alone. I wish you the best.
Woah.

It's only food man, don't worry about it...What would you do about this situation? (it's interestin but i need help lol - pizza included!!)?
well i am sorry to hear that someone could hurt you like that however my friend sometimes the truth hurts. now its how you handle it there are lots of good diet plans out there and sometimes it how you present yourself i have seen many beautiful/handsome heavy people but they dress and walk with attitude. good luck to you
You lost me after the first sentence!What would you do about this situation? (it's interestin but i need help lol - pizza included!!)?
Eh, don't worry about it.. You're a bit sensitive, "x' is a bit of an ***hole not a complete one but, bit of one.. 'Y' should really think about keeping things to herself... Don't shut your self down/out/whatever.. Don't avoid him... try talking to him..
Hey,



there seem to be a lot of different things going round your head about this, so bear with me.



Firstly, I'm sorry that anybody made you feel this way. Your weight and how much you eat is none of their business. If you want to do something about it good for you, and as for the pizza - let it go. Everyone slips up once in a while, it doesn't mean that you have to give up on the idea of losing weight.



Now about X and Y. If you feel like you can't see them right now then avoid them a bit longer. You don't want to see them until you've had a chance to cool down and think things through. What you need to decide is how much this really upset you. Yes Y did something not very nice by talking about you behind your back, particularly about a sensitive issue, but can you forgive her? or should you? This can be particularly difficult if that person is a crush, but have a think about it. Is Y the kind of person that would talk about you in a way you wouldn't like, or is this out of character? What about X? Is X the kind of person that would make fun of you knowing it would upset you? or just a bit thoughtless? Either way my best advice would be to talk to them individually. They deserve to know why you've been avoiding them, and you can explain why they hurt you so much. If you can't face doing it face-to-face then an email or something could work.



Finally good for you for being so open minded about maybe liking X and Y. Just remember, there are no rules - have a bit of fun, there's no rush. Just make sure the people you love are worth it.