My BFF's Inconsiderate But I'm Afraid to Confront Her?

My best friend, let's call her Jane, is the funniest, smartest, prettiest girl I've ever met. She's super sweet and spontaneous and really shows that she loves to be around me (and of course, the feeling is mutual). But she always says things like "Hey, can I come over to your house tomorrow?" If I say I have something to do, she won't suggest anything OR be free for a while after that, and if I say yes, she'll keep on insisting on other things.



Yesterday we planned for her to come over and go to the park, then back to my house to play games (like Wii and Bananagrams... and yes, we're in high school) and eat. I bought some chocolate muffins, our favorite drinks, chips and salsa, and made sure I had money to order a pizza. But she never gave me a time until 1 in the morning (when I was asleep). This morning she said that it'd be easier to do it an hour later, and just now she told me that she had a family thing and couldn't come. It was really hard for me to plan all of this and she ALWAYS does this. Just yesterday she completely forgot about going to the mall with some friends and me, and almost made us miss our movie. She also lead on this boy that has a super crush on her, even though she doesn't like him, so now they're dating. She's the worst girlfriend ever and is going to dump him tonight via iChat. She's EVEN going to say that maybe in the future they could get back together, even though she told me that there's no chance. Her boyfriend's one of my best friends, but I can see why she doesn't like him. He's sensitive and I know he's going to take this really hard. I told Jane this, but she said she's still going to do it.



She BARELY even asks how I'm doing. I got a part in the school play and she KNEW I was auditioning, but when I got home and she called me, I had to tell her (after an HOUR of talking about her) that I got a part in the play. I've been getting annoyed by her for a while, but this finally does it.



But after I leave from hanging out with her, I'm so happy (and no, it's not a romance feeling, It's definitely a friendly feeling). I don't know what to do, even though I DID talk to my mom about this (we're super close). She just says it's a teenage phase and a lot of girls my age are inconsiderate, but this is way too extreme. But we have a LOT of mutual friends and even have this group that does monthly sleepovers, so I can't just stop being friends with her.



I'm her best friend and she tells me everything, yet she barely leaves room for me. I'm lucky if she asks me how my day was. She's totally clueless. Yet we have a lot of fun together.



So, what should I do? I can't just keep on being friends with her, but I can't confront her. I know this is too long, but I couldn't leave out those details.My BFF's Inconsiderate But I'm Afraid to Confront Her?
Sounds like you like Jane a lilttle more then a bestie...%26amp; That's janes personality so like deal with it OR don't be friends with her no more %26amp; pretend she is not at the monthly sleepovers
i've had several friends like this and ended up in a fight with every single one. but, they brought it on themselves. i should have been more upfron and direct with them. but no...i'm what they would call a 'bleeding heart' or someone who 'wears their heart on their sleeve' so i eventually exploded. YOU HAVE TO BE UPFRONT, DIRECT AND BLUNT with these kinds of friends, don't worry about losing their friendship. a true friend would NEVER leave you behind or hate you for being honest. sure they might be mad at first, but they'll love, respect and appreciate you for it later. good luck, sweetie. :)My BFF's Inconsiderate But I'm Afraid to Confront Her?
It sounds like "Jane" has done this for too long. Go confront her. If she gets mad, thats her problem. Move on, as hard as it may seem, (i've been in the same situation). Hang out with your other true, good, nice friends, who appreciate you and care for you. Good luck!
Your "friend" has done this too long, confront her with friends who agree with you, and if she disagrees then its her problem. Go have fun with your true friends.